Having it all.
What does it mean to “have it all”? When I try to think of someone who has it all, my brain immediately starts scanning the list of famous wealthy people I’ve witnessed grow their success over my lifetime.
Just like that app everyone jokes about I can imagine swiping left as my brain settles on a face and then quickly refers to some scandal or tragedy that befell them. As I quickly began tossing out every name I could come up with, I soon began to wonder, what does having it all look like?
More often than not, most of us imagine wealth somewhere in that equation. After all money does make life easier.
This 4th of July, I witnessed some flashy boats on the ocean. There were crowds of beautiful people in bathing suits celebrating in expensive style. But even with all the money in the world, they chose others to share the experience with. Without your friends or family would you feel like you had it all?
I know our family often tries to plan events together. In fact recently my daughter was home and all of us (Ryan and I and our 4 adult children) went to a concert together. It was such fun spending time with one another doing something we all enjoy.
In fact the thing I find the most joy in is spending time with family, not so much the things we do or have.
Of course those things are good too but I wouldn’t say we had it all without the relationships in my life.
I was thinking being healthy, wealthy and free of responsibilities sounds good. But you know, I’ve met more people with serious health conditions who feel that their sickness put the world in perspective for them and therefore they are far more appreciative now of the things they took for granted before.
I guess health and wealth are out. And what about freedom from responsibility? Well you can’t own a dog without the responsibility to take care of them. Who could imagine a life without dogs? Not I, that’s for sure.
In all seriousness responsibility is a BIG word. It can cover anything from a job, to money, to kids, or dogs, and even self-care. So a life free of all responsibility simply does not exist.
I’ve come to the conclusion that right here, in this moment, I can say I might not have it all but “having it all” isn’t what it’s cracked up to be.
1 Corinthians 13: 1-3 & 13 NIV If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing…
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.